Helping the Hurting to Be Thankful Again
Helping individuals cultivate gratefulness to alter their relationship to physical pain from one of emotional suffering to credence has been the middle of my work.
My work with chronic pain patients has been, for me, a constant lesson in the power of gratefulness. Helping individuals cultivate gratefulness to change their relationship to physical pain from one of emotional suffering to acceptance has been the heart of my piece of work. At times, in truth, it has not been easy. Why, I am oft asked, should a person with years of debilitating hurting discover annihilation to be grateful for? And how can gratitude be an effective tool for pain relief?
Yet, the very simplicity of gratefulness is the fundamental to unlocking one's heart from the cells of depression, anger, loss, and fear. In sharing a new perspective on gratefulness with my patients, I begin by asking them what might they be grateful for in the very room in which nosotros sit down? Amazingly – or perhaps, sadly – this request is often met with confused silence. The art, the windows, the chairs, the thermostat – even the Tv set on 1 wall – go unnoticed equally if pain had made them invisible. I remember having a gentleman tell me that there was cipher at all to exist grateful for in the room. Then I stood upwardly and flicked on the calorie-free switch. He literally jumped out of his chair. It was as if the light seedling of gratefulness had turned on his heart and mind.
Gratefulness volition not brand pain become away but it will help loosen the bonds of suffering.
How easy is it to allow ourselves to be grateful? I tell my patients about how I was at a busy airdrome and ordered a hamburger from a busy lunch counter. I constitute a seat and grabbed a few moments to eat before heading off to board my gate. But as I passed by the lunch counter on my way out, I stopped and caught the eye of the cook in the back kitchen. I chosen out, "Thanks for the burger, it was great!" In that moment that airport cook became a chef and she smiled broadly and thanked me dorsum. What did this toll me? Ten seconds of my time? Ten years later I yet tell this story.
My gratefulness groups end with the showing of Blood brother Steindl-Rast'due south "A Expert Twenty-four hours".
I inquire my patients to pay attending and listen closely. Some of them cry. Some of them tell me how beautiful it is. And when it is over and I ask them over again what they are grateful for, no i is at a loss for words.
Gratefulness will not brand hurting go away simply it will aid loosen the bonds of suffering. It helps to refocus us on what we have rather than what we take lost. It brings us into communion with acceptance and with allowing and these, in turn, open our spirits to greater flexibility and resilience.
In my groups I rarely say what I am grateful for but if you lot were to inquire me today, I would answer: "I am grateful for gratefulness itself."
Bruce F. Vocalist is a psychologist, mindfulness meditation teacher, musician, and writer. He was the founding Manager of the Chronic Hurting and Recovery Center at Silver Hill Hospital in New Canaan CT. His guided meditations are available on YouTube and a digital CD of meditative music, "Heartful: Music for Julie," is available at brucefsinger.bandcamp.com.
We invite yous to share a story about yourself or another person, reflecting on the question: "How has gratefulness shifted a moment, an feel, or a lifetime?"
Source: https://gratefulness.org/grateful-living/grateful-in-spite-of-pain/
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